How to handle feeling alone and depressed



QUESTION-I don’t think I have ever felt more alone or depressed in my entire life. I can’t think of a single person that would miss me if I was gone, most probably wouldn’t even notice that I was gone.

Coach Martin Response- I am so sorry for how you are feeling. if I said I understand how you feel, I would be outrightly lying. Yet this is what individuals suffering from depression and other emotional and mental disorders go through on a daily basis. 

However, what exacerbates the suffering is your own distorted thoughts and feelings. Which are products of a distorted interpretation of external experiences and events by an individual. 

For example, it's not very true that no one would notice if you were to die today. You definitely are exaggerating the situation. See it's not possible for everyone to be your fun. In the same token, it's not possible to lack even one person who likes you.

With distorted thinking, you chose to believe facts that affirm your sense of inferiority and insignificance. The truth is most people living with emotionally and mentally disturbed individuals care about them, but don't know how to help.

Most times they chose to stay away than be close and offer zero or little help to those under mental and emotional anguish.

I would suggest the use of the 3L framework as a first-aid as you consider a long-term solution. Its clear that you have been going through traumatic, disturbing, and difficult experiences which have likely drained your emotional, mental, and spiritual reserves.

Your present emotional, mental and spiritual makeup has not been enough to handle these moments. It's common for depression to drains a person from the inside out, because of trying to hide the internal anguish and pain from even close relations.

It's, therefore, safe to say your emotional, mental and spiritual cup is running dry from overuse and abuse. In all fairness courting suicide is not outrageous considering the feeling of worthlessness, hopelessness, and helplessness you find yourself in. 

From my experience, the hoarding, suppression, and withholding of distorted thoughts and feelings generated in reaction to the traumatic, painful, and difficult circumstances and experiences make the already bad situation worse. The holding of these thoughts uses the emotional, mental, and spiritual energy reserves, leaving little or no reserves to handle external challenges in life.

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Therefore LETTING OUT -The sharing of experiences, circumstances, and events you have been going through to either a trusted family member, friend or colleague, a coach, or counselor is the beginning point in the attempt to seek help.

 if you don't know where to go,  you can start with a free 3L Framework live chat This will get you instant emotional relief. This is how it works, telling your story involves the movement of thoughts and emotions which produces an emptying the cup effect.

The more you share, the lighter you feel. The flow of thoughts and feelings you once suppressed and held within yourself will reduce the emotional and mental energy of holding them inside.

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