How To Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame?

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A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame. Your self-esteem is the currency with which you negotiate and exchange for healthy relationships. Low self-esteem sells you short big time.

Since self-esteem is one's personal assessment of their worth, essence, and value, you of all the people should value yourself high based on your intrinsic worth, which has everything to do with "being" rather than doing.

How Your Parents Shaped Your Self-Esteem, Self-Image, and Body Image
Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.

—ANNWILSON SCHAEF

CAN YOU IDENTIFY WITH ANY OF THESE PEOPLE? -Do you have trouble gazing in the mirror because you're never satisfied with what you see? Do you ever feel unsatisfied with yourself, no matter how much effort you put into becoming a better person or how much work you put into your body?

 Do you find fault with yourself on a regular basis? Are you a stickler for details? Do you have an inner critic who continuously criticizes you and finds flaws in everything you do? Or are you like Charles, who feels that the only way to feel good about yourself is to work hard—but that no amount of hard work is ever enough?

Many of us devote a significant amount of time and effort to improving our bodies and increasing our attractiveness. Despite spending time and money on diets, exercise, clothing, and cosmetic surgery, many people still dislike who they see in the mirror. 

There is always something that can be improved or adjusted. People who are self-conscious about their appearance are likely to be self-conscious about other elements of their lives as well. 

They tend to focus on their defects rather than their strengths, and they are rarely satisfied with their work, schoolwork, or personal relationships. When they make a mistake, they scold themselves brutally.

There's nothing wrong with trying to improve oneself; everyone has self-critical thoughts from time to time. Some people, on the other hand, have so low self-esteem that they are never happy with their accomplishments, physical attractiveness, or performance.

They have an inner critic who is always tearing them down and robbing them of any temporary happiness they may feel when they achieve a goal. The following questionnaire will assist you in determining whether you have poor self-esteem or an unhealthy inner critic.

The following questionnaire will help you determine whether you are suffering from low self-esteem and an unhealthy inner critic.

If you responded yes to more than five of these questions, you'll benefit from the extra guidance in this book to boost your self-esteem, silence your inner critic, heal your shame, and start finding true joy and satisfaction in your successes.

 Even if you only responded yes to one of these questions, this book can help you because none of those feelings are natural or healthy. You were born with an inherent sense of goodness, power, and wisdom that you should be able to tap into when you're feeling down. 

Unfortunately, due to how you were raised and the teachings you got to the contrary, you may have lost contact with this inner sense.

Inner Critic Defined-

Another aspect that contributes to low self-esteem is having a strong inner critic, which frequently goes hand in hand with low self-esteem. The typical socializing process that every youngster goes through shapes your inner critic.

 Parents educate their children which behaviors are acceptable and which are not, as well as which are risky or unethical. The majority of parents do so by rewarding the former and discouraging the latter. 

Because children know (consciously or unconsciously) that their parents provide all physical and emotional nourishment, parental acceptance feels like a life or death situation to them.

As a result, when they are chastised or spanked, they are highly aware of the loss of parental acceptance since it carries the terrible possibility of losing all support.

21 comments:

  1. The following questionnaire will help you determine whether you are suffering from low self-esteem and an unhealthy inner critic.

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  2. QUESTION01. Do you suffer from insecurity or a lack of confidence?

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  3. QUESTION02. Do you focus more on what you do wrong or what you fail
    at than what you do right or well?

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  4. QUESTION03. Do you feel less than or not as good as other people because you are not perfect in what you do or how you look?

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  5. QUESTION04. Do you believe you need to do more, be more, or give more in order to earn the respect and love of other people?

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  6. QUESTION05. Are you aware of having a critical inner voice that frequently
    tells you that you did something wrong?

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  7. QUESTION6. Are you constantly critical of your performance—at work, at school, at sports?

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  8. QUESTION07. Are you critical of the way you interact with others? For example, do you frequently kick yourself for saying the wrong thing or for behaving in certain ways around others?

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  9. QUESTION08. Do you feel like a failure—in life, in your career, in your relationships?

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  10. QUESTION09. Are you a perfectionist?

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  11. QUESTION10. Do you feel like you do not deserve good things? Do you become anxious when you are successful or happy?

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  12. QUESTION11. Are you afraid that if people knew the real you, they wouldn’t like you? Are you afraid people will find out you are a fraud?

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  13. 12. Are you frequently overwhelmed with shame and embarrassment because you feel exposed, made fun of, or ridiculed?

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  14. QUESTION013. Do you constantly compare yourself to others and come up short?

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  15. QUESTION14. Do you avoid looking in the mirror as much as possible, or do you tend to look in the mirror a lot to make sure you look okay?

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  16. QUESTION15. Are you usually critical of what you see when you look in the mirror? Are you seldom, if ever, satisfied with the way you look?

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  17. QUESTION16. Are you self-conscious or embarrassed about the way you look?

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  18. QUESTION17. Do you have an eating disorder—compulsive overeating, bingeing and purging, frequent dieting or starvation, or anorexia?

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  19. QUESTON18. Do you need to drink alcohol or take other substances in order to feel comfortable or less self-conscious in social situations?

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  20. QUESTION19. Do you fail to take very good care of yourself through poor diet, not enough sleep, or too little or too much exercise?

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  21. QUESTION20. Do you tend to be self-destructive by smoking, abusing alcohol or drugs, or speeding?

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