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  1. INTERACTIVE SELF ESTEEM TEST

    Congratulations on undertaking the multichoice Self-Esteem Test. In the spirit of 3L-Approach, I welcome you to the interactive Self-Esteem Test. This is key to continue creating a flow effect in your mind as you work on freeing the CREATIVE power of the mind to work for you.

    ACTION: Under each of the 34 Questions explain your answer and be on the lookout for my response, as we develop a conversation around your self-esteem.

    Coach Martin |Email: emotiohealth@gmail.com |Whatsapp:+254724521603

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  2. QUESTION-1.I think that overall, people find me boring to talk to.

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    1. The way am jovial I don't think so ,,,am not boring when am with my friends..

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    2. I like your level of Self awareness. Now perhaps you want to know if the jovial is only on the face like to cover up or its springing from the heart?

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    3. Yes I feel that whatever I have to say is insignificant

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    4. You have been exposed to unrealistic standard of perfection that doesn't exist on earth. And mostly when its your parents who hold you on such high and unrealistic standard of perfection as a child you learn to survive. This is when you have to sacrifice your emotional needs to be loved and affirmed unconditionally to behaving in a certain way to receive that love or acceptance.

      This leaves you hollow inside, because you are performing to a level of standard that is not supported by your emotional, mental and spiritual capacity because what else can you expect from a child?

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  3. QUESTION02-I mess up everything I touch.?

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    1. Nko...I don't mess up everything am always cautious with my things and other peoples things.not that I don't mess up BT not everytime

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    2. Alright...the question is about being overly cautious because the last time you did it , it went wrong or it got you into problem.?

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    3. Never had that belief in fact I always considered myself a blessing.

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  4. QUESTION03-I feel devastated when someone criticizes me.

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    1. Why critize me..sometimes I get

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    2. Super discouraged and I don't know how to react to critism.

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    3. You were never allowed have a relationship and connection with the authentic you..as a human being. The authentic you is a mortal being subject to frailties, and flaws such as is a characteristic of every human. The relationship with your primary care givers should have allowed you to be you. Take stock of your strengths and weaknesses and accept both as components of your uniqueness.

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    4. Yes I do, I have a hard time accepting criticism

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  5. QUESTION04-If someone ever falls in love with me, I better do my best to prove myself worthy, because it may never happen again.

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    1. Weh...never haijafikia apo haha😂,see my worth in me BT can't prove to you

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    2. Wow...and yeah. that is it. You don't need to prove anything that you are not already.

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    3. In matters of love I always have the upper hand.i control the relationship and desides when to quit

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    4. Why do you leave the relationships?

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    5. I struggle with that notion especially when I'm starting a new romantic relationship.

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  6. QUESTION05-I could disappear from the surface of the earth and nobody would notice or care.

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    1. Not..I don't think so people knw me,,,

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    2. No my family cares alot about me

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    3. So not true, I have people who really care for me.

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  7. QUESTION06-I feel as though I let those I care about down.?

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    1. Like this time am going through hell,,I feel so coz am not there for them the way I used to be..😢

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  8. QUESTION07-I will never amount to anything or anyone significant.

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    1. I Disagree...I will turn out to be something important to someone

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    2. And most importantly, you should become an important something to yourself first...it starts with you before it goes to others.

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    3. I fear becoming a great person or successful because it would mean more responsibility.i find it hard to man up

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    4. That's not how I perceive myself though I have been told that before by someone close to me.

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  9. QUESTION08-When someone criticizes me, I can't help but feel that I really am incompetent?

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    1. Sometimes I do feel so like I can't offer something good not helpful..at times sometimes..watu wako na ego

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    2. So so true,I feel Asif am doing the wrong thing,,as my purpose for existence is to just wait for the day that I'll die

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    3. I don't respond well to critics, I always feel like their intention is to always put me down and since I have that notion, I have never felt in competent. I always feel like I'm an easy target because of my easy going personality.

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  10. QUESTION09-I have what it takes to socialize with other people.

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    1. .I just be with people who fit me and accept me...I don't take myself like that

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    2. A lot, in fact I have a great sense of humor.

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  11. QUESTION10-I think I am a failure?

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    1. God forbids am not,,,sometimes I fail and correct myself BT I don't take myself as a failure never ever.

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    2. This is called distorted thinking and it only leads to a life of misery, because then your mind will shy off any opportunity to prove that hypothesis otherwise. That explains why whatever you have been engaging in, even though you have done your best, yet the dominant print in your mind is that you are a failure because you have not achieved what other people wanted and expected you to achieve. But you see you were never created to function from the outside in..where you bend and act on other peoples whims and wits.

      You were created to function from the inside Out. which is responding and engaging in life from who you truly are in the inside of you, based on your true potential in form of gifts and talents, based on the emotional, mental and spiritual capacity.


      Any time an order established is changed it brings confusion irresponsibility.

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    3. Not generally, there are some areas of my life I feel I have failed.

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  12. QUESTION-11.I feel as though I am not good enough for those who care about me?

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  13. QUESTION-12-People will only respect me if I'm good-looking and/or successful?

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    1. Respect depends on how you carry yourself (neither successful nor good looking you deserve respect and vise versa is true😂😂)

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    2. People will respect me once I have the money

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    3. Honestly speaking, I used to have that notion.

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  14. QUESTION13-If I don't do as well as others, it means that I am an inferior person.

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  15. QUESTION14-Realizing that criticism towards me is justified makes me feel like a failure.

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    1. Nothing will ever make me look like failure

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    3. I have never seen myself as I failure, my main problem is I process things in a negative way majority of the time.

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  16. QUESTION15-How I feel about myself is more important than others' opinions of me.

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    1. QUESTION16-Being myself guarantees that people will dislike me.

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    2. Yea.being myself I don't care abt what they say,..whether like or dislike I care less be you

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    3. I feel nothing but fear about myself

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    4. I consider myself a very sensitive person, people's opinion about me especially if it's something negative bothers me a lot.

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  17. QUESTION17-I will never be as skilled or as smart as I should be.

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  18. QUESTION18-I deserve to be loved and respected.

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    1. Why not? am I not human I deserve respect..to be loved its your decision whether you love or hate me shouri yako

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    2. Absolutely yes, though for some reasons, I have allowed myself to stay in relations and environment that I was constantly disrespected.

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  19. QUESTION19-.It's important to me to be liked by everyone I meet.

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    1. I don't want to be liked by everyone😂😂😂,,BT I don't want so set a bad example to everyone I meet

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    2. It feels wierld when someone dislikes me

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    3. I used to be like that but now I rather be respected by people than to be liked

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  20. QUESTION-20-Someone who stands up to me or disagrees with me may still very well like and respect me.

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  21. QUESTION21-When people point out my mistakes, I feel like they are degrading me.

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    1. Yes,I do feel so..direct me before I start doing be there to show me ...si eti unatoka mwenye unataka kukuja kukosoa kazi yangu😂😂😂 infact It won't end in peace

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    2. I do feel that way towards people who I have done so many great things/deeds to but they will only focus on or approach me on my mistakes.

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  22. QUESTION22-I am not confident I've done a good job unless someone else points it out.

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    1. Yes,,Am confident with my work and the moment someones point it out it give you motive...and you gain more confident for doing more

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  23. QUESTION23-I am afraid of being rejected by my friends.

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    1. True friends will never reject you ,if do iam never afraid

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    2. Am afraid of being rejected by the family not friends

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    1. I used to think that way until recently when I began my 3L Healing Program. I discovered I have been so unkind and unloving to myself. The best part is, I'm fixing it already.

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  25. QUESTION25-I constantly ask those I care about whether they love me.

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    1. I don't ask them I will definitely knw whether they love me or not

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    2. I do not ask however I secretly obsess with looking for signs that questions their love for me.

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  26. QUESTION26-I avoid having arguments with others because I don't want them to get angry or dislike me.

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    1. Personally i hate argument.and yes I don't want them to hate or get angry abt me

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  27. QUESTION27-I modify my personality, opinions, or appearance in order to be accepted by others.

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  28. QUESTION28-Unlike others, I really have to go out of my way to make and keep a friend.

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  29. QUESTION29-In case of need, I know people who care enough about me to offer their help.

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  30. QUESTION30-I get discouraged when someone tells me I haven't done my best.

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    1. Yea,,,I get BT not remain just discouraged I will try to do the best

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    2. Yes, if it was a big deal doing it.

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  31. QUESTION31-I feel worthless and useless.

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    1. Have never felt worthless or useless,,,

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    2. Yes
      Asif the only thing I can do is to just eat and wait for my death.i lost a sense of direction.my future is so unclear

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  32. QUESTION32-Before making any decision, I ask other people if I'm doing the right thing.

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  33. QUESTION33-I fall short of my expectations.

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    1. Yea ..I don't put much expectations in something or someone...people may fail..

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    2. Yes every time I don't reach my expectations

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    3. Sometimes I feel that way.

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  34. QUESTION34-When someone rejects my ideas, I feel insulted.

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    1. 😂😂😂 yes very much insulted..a person may dislike your opinion becouse he/she hates you hataki kuona ukicontribute ideas

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    2. I feel assif I was not to talk in the first place..like talking is only causing more trouble

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