Child Emotional Neglect Test

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 Emotional Neglect Questionnaire.

Becoming aware of the impact of CEN can make a tremendous difference in your life.



"Becoming aware of my CEN has hit the nail on the head for me. This is the missing piece that I’ve been searching for."

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  1. CEN is often subtle, invisible and unmemorable.
    SO HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU HAVE IT?
    Take the Emotional Neglect Questionnaire to find out...

    ACTION: Undertake the Test to find out if your emotions and emotional needs were neglected.

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  2. Q01-1. Sometimes feel like you don’t belong when with your family or friends ?

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  3. Q02-Pride yourself on not relying upon others ?

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    1. Sometimes, I don’t like sharing my struggles because I don’t believe anybody can help me but myself.

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    2. Sounds very logical and rational not to share your struggles especially when you believe nobody can help you. However, what sharing does is to create a flow of thoughts and emotions about the struggles you are going through. Once there is movement of thoughts and emotions from within you to without, that gives you a life line. Its like when you are about to drown because you are drained and all you have is air filled ballon. You see at that particular time you just need to keep floating as you wait for the external help and rescue may be from divers and the like.The ballon offers that life line. It keeps you floating.

      Its the same thing when you are going through stuff which are draining you emotionally and mentally and they are beginning to drown you.

      Sharing with someone becomes that air filled balloon that just keeps you floating until ultimate help comes.

      As long as you are able to talk, and write do not keep it to yourself. One person could be the air filled balloon, just before a professional comes to help you for good.

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  4. Q03-Have difficulty asking for help ?

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    1. Yes, I feel embarrassed or avoid it because I don’t want to be judged or look down upon.

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    2. Apparently, people will always have something to say, and they care less what you think about them. Perhaps what you should motivate you is that you are responsible for your own happiness and sense of peace. And quite often that has to do with sharing out when you should and not sharing when you should not.

      Wisdom is knowing when to share and when not to .

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  5. Q04.Have friends or family who complain that you are aloof or distant ?

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    1. My friends and family always say it is easy for them to know when something is wrong with me or when I’m dealing with a problem because I always cut off communication completely.
      Then I will reappear when circumstances are better or when I feel good about myself.

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    2. That might have worked for you, but it is not a best practice. See your family members will be most heart if something fatal is to happen to you. Even with all their weakness you should be open to them especially if something is not ok with you. Shutting in until you get better then you resurface denies them an opportunity to see how their actions can hurt or heal you.

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  6. Q05. Feel you have not met your potential in life ?

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    1. Yes. I create goals, attained them but I will still feel unsatisfied like whatever I achieved was wasn’t good enough and I could have done better.

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    2. The unsatisfied feeling after you have attained your goals is common to adults who when they were children were exposed to "perfectionism" which is one used by a person to keep a subject under their whims. You have to let go of that perfectionism and embrace the fact that you can never be perfect because that is what makes you human.

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  7. Q06. Often just want to be left alone ?

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    1. All the time, the most place I’m comfortable being at is at home by self watching movies and all to myself . I have actually watched a lot of movies, suggesting something to me that I haven’t watch, you must be an expert 😊

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  8. Q07. Secretly feel that you may be a fraud ?

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    1. Not all the time. Though sometimes I feel like I have to put on a happy face or smile to people so that people won’t have to ask what’s really going on.

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  9. Q08. Tend to feel uncomfortable in social situations ?

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    1. Yes, unless I’m intoxicated I won’t enjoy engaging with people in a gathering.

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  10. Q09. Often feel disappointed with, or angry at, yourself ?

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  11. Q10. Judge yourself more harshly than you judge others ?

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    1. Yes, in fact when I complain about myself I a lot of times people would say ” you are too hard on yourself or stop being too hard on yourself”

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  12. Q11. Compare yourself to others and often find yourself sadly lacking?

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  13. Q12. Find it easier to love animals than people ?

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    1. Yes, I love cats a lot and dogs too.
      Actually, one of my goals is once I settle down to a place I can finally call home, I will get me a German shepherd.

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  14. Q13. Often feel irritable or unhappy for no apparent reason?

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    1. All the time. From when I wake up to when I go back to bed.
      And being in a type of working environment where I have to interact a lot with clients, I always feel like I’m acting or impersonating someone else just to engage in conversations.

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    2. There is a huge chance you have been living on borrowed personality just to survive or barely exist. There is need to peel off that borrowed personality so you can interact in life from who you authentically are.

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  15. Q14. Have trouble knowing what you’re feeling ?

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    1. Yes, I hardly connect with myself. For instance, if you ask me right now what I’m feeling...honestly I don’t know yet my adrenaline is just high.

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  16. Q15. Have trouble identifying your strengths and weaknesses?

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    1. I know my strength and weakness but I just can’t find a balance between. It’s either I’m too strong or weak.

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  17. Q16. Sometimes feel like you’re on the outside looking in ?

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    1. Yes, I will be in a gathering but my mind and feelings are just to myself or cooking ways on how I can get myself out of the place as fast I can.

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  18. Q17. Believe you’re one of those people who could easily live as a hermit ?

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  19. Q18. Have trouble calming yourself ?

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    1. A lot especially during the night. I’m always restless and it can take me hours before my body accepts to take a rest and fall asleep.
      Most of the people around me actually say I’m
      too ‘clumsy’ with the way I move or do stuff. I’m always in a rush or will do things fast just to finish. I don’t know how to relax and do this slowly or even pay attention to details.

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  20. Q19. Feel there’s something holding you back from being present in the moment?

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    1. Yeah. Fear, anxiety, stress, worrying all the time even when there’s absolutely nothing to worry about. I will just find or create something negative in my mind to dwell upon.

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    1. Every day. I don’t feel like I have anything good to hold on to, absolutely nothing makes me happy and even if I tend to push myself to fill fulfill and pretend I’m content my state of happiness won’t last for long.

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  22. Q21. Secretly feel there’s something wrong with you ?

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    1. All the time. I find it really hard to achieve pleasure or maintain a sense of joy. I always move around with a heavy feeling and negative thoughts all the time. It’s hard for me to be positive or look forward to something good

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  23. Q22. Struggle with self-discipline ?

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    1. Yes I do. I find it hard to say no even though I know whatever I’m doing is wrong or not allowed.

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  24. Look back over your YES answers. These answers give you a window into the areas in which you may have experienced Emotional Neglect as a child. The more questions you answered "Yes", the more likely CEN has affected your life.

    Coach Martin
    Source:https://bit.ly/3gGRByG

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